Lavender Hearts - 24 February 2026

 

Disclaimer - No Ai / chatgpt used in writing. My most authentic notes and thoughts.

So, "Lavender Hearts" is the name that struck a chord in me. 23rd February 2026, I was thinking, of a relaxing watch to be inspired by. 

'A Room with a View' a film based on the novel by E.M. Forster. 

If Jane Austen dealt with a tension between the need for propreity and desires. I think, this movie was more about a man's sudden outpouring of his heart, or rather, over coming the stoic sense of reason and rationality.

The female protagonist, is sort of shows more sense of rationale, more stength of mind owing to circumstances, a controlled sense of implementation of passion. 

What's interesting is, the father of the male protagonist, Mr. Emerson. 

Most Saggitarian qualities, are displayed by him. Its interesting, he encourages Miss Lucy Honeychurch, to implore on talking to his son. He doesnt share the same views of the Reverend, who chastises the cart driver of public displays of romantic affections on the cart. 

That's indeed a breath of fresh air, when men of high gentlyry, were all for class, social status, and not the ways of the heart. I simply fell in love with that character, when he goes the mile to get cornflowers for the elderly spinster sisters. Something, that moves a chord in me. Lovely.....

What’s charming even more is, when George Emerson speaks of his love for Miss. Lucy, its not overcome by passion alone, He loves her for her mind, her thoughts and her passion and sensitivity.

“I love you. I want you to have your own thoughts and ideas, even when I hold you in my arms.”

All credits for to Mr. Emerson for his upbringing of not just a principled and broadminded man, but also a man with a heart and soul….:)

I am reminded of this tamil soap opera, when the father urges a woman to propose to his son, who wont cross the boundaries set by his mother. 

There is an interesting scene, where he asks the girl to write a letter to his son, only to be later confronted by his wife on finding the same. Its a comedy which came out in the 90's. I was quite conflicted at how rude the male lead is, at one point, almost chastising the girl for expressing her feelings. It shows the control his mother had over his feelings versus his own authentic feelings.

Here's the episode, from the serial https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W3EB4XMzBCg&list=PLK97LRHcb3U7WyCbrWNdg_VFCnXW5ZpkR&index=11

With all the avoidant type studies in psychology, it has all to do with a conflict between the body and soul and a huge part of it is on parenting styles and attitudes to relationships. 

I hope to write 'Lavender Hearts' my novel of how the male's Pov on love.