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Dear Daughter,

 

I loved you from the moment I saw you. 

Daughter, you're special!

Eyes of your heart.......

 

"To see life's journey through the eyes of your heart, is to know that all is happening exactly as it was meant to be...."

A Reflection ....

 

"Trust in the Promise of time, and you'll see that, the heavens hold wonderful surprises for us all...."

Time is certainly a pitiless healer. It heals all wounds, no matter how deep they are...

I can't belive as i reflect, I even managed to smile at that time. This picture is taken in 2017 -2018. when, we just returned to India, after nearly 22 years outside India. And those are December flowers....

The best thing to happen in my life has been my discovery of Odissi...

Thanks to Gayatri & the late Amarnath Ghosh...

Recently, a dream of my school dance teacher, Mrs Bhattacharya came, and the same day i found, my anklets which she gave me.

My very first dance was Rabindra Nritya for my school carnival in the winter. I still remember my dad's eyes when he was so happy to see me in the peacock blue saree of my mother.

I felt like Radhe dressed and adorned by my mother, to find my Krishna....

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Im in the right most corner......

We dance 'Ore Ghiribasi'....

 

Swoonworthy ..... :)

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/5FMbLST5zZA

This kept appearing in my feed lately more than once.

Incidentally, this reminded, of the love my mother's brother ( Ravi) had for his wife (Pkala)....

May I have the writing prowess to write such scenes as authentically and beautifully...

& if im lucky, may it find me.... :) :) 💕

Dear Daughter, dated 27 June 2026

Link: https://youtu.be/kA-obJ8Q4wc?si=S95mXnYHOw01C6f8

A few years back, my cousin brother had shared this video recording, a rendering by a father to his daughter. 

This is Subramanya Bharathiyar's work ....

Bharathiyar writes in his poem, "என்னைக்  கலிதீர்த்தே உலகில் , ஏற்றம் புரிய வந்தாய்'. 

Fatherhood, is certainly a huge evolution in the consciousness from manhood. How is being the father of a boy different from being a father of a girl. 

In the dynamic between me and my own father, on father's day I found myself reflecting on our own jouney. 

My dad is the perfect archetype of moon and venus qualities and with impecable mercurial faculties, and a high unhealthy ego....

Now, my dad was extremely caring, extremely loving, extremely vocal to his family of how he loved us, but with his ego, I often felt unheard....

Overtime our relationship has gone through a catharatic transformation and a metamorphsis, that I am perfectly glad to have been part of and am still am...

A woman's relationship with her dad, almost shapes what she looks for in a partner, and there is much shadow work if one seeks to bring the most authentic beautiful version of themselves to a relationship while, being aware of the flaws in the relationship....

When I hear this version, of Bharathiyar;s poem sung by that gentleman, towards the end he is really overwhelmed by the depth of the awakening in love his daughter brings in him....

I always cherish this recording. 

I can only, imagine, a fictional husband of mine, singing this to my daughter I seek to manifest, with me in wonder, with tears in my eyes, seeing this bond....

in sankrit, an ideal father, is called, Shreshtah Janakah, श्रेष्ठःजनकः , why Janaka why not, Dasharatha... 

Janaka was the Father who adopted Sita, when he found her as he ploughed the field with faith. Sita, is regarded and revered as the daughter of Mother Earth, an incarnation of Maha Lakshmi.

Why qualities is Janaka endowed with, to deserve Maha Lakshmi as his daughter?

Janaka –is referred to in the contexts of, his commitment and quest towards soul consciousness studies, under the Sage Ashta-vakra.

Father’s day, in 2026,  falls in the — sign of Poorvaphalguni and Uttaraphalguni. The asterism of Uttaraphalguni is associated with a story of Janaka. Janaka was once asked by his Guru, to go around his palace or his kingdom, with a lamp in his hand, while he pays attention to the matters of the kingdom he has the equal responsibility to ensure that the fire is not extinguished and it remains lit throughout. The sign of Uttara — is perhaps associated with this steadfastness, a commitment to marriage and unflickering, unwavering sense of duty being un-attached.

What does this story convey? To my knowledge it conveys, doing your duty but with a balance, with a sense of equanimity and poise in your heart to not let the fire within be extinguished.

Hard….but possible…..

Another, dynamic we constanty read in Sanskrit literature is Kanva maharishi, who  is the foster father of Shakuntala. 

It is said, Kanva maharishi went on a tirtha yatra, learning of the difficutlty that his daughter may face.... In the kavya, 4 veses by Kanva maharishi are regarded as of prime importance. 

coming back, why does, Bhrathiyar say, 'என்னைக்  கலிதீர்த்தே உலகில் 

ஏற்றம் புரிய வந்தாய்!'

He ends saying, 'உன் கண்ணில் நீர்வழிந்தால்- என்நெஞ்சில் 

 உத்திரங்  கொட்டுதடி; 
என் கண்ணில்  பாவையன்றோ? கண்ணம்மா 
என்னுயிர்  நின்னதன்றோ! '

More reflections in another post....

Obeisances, to all those who have been father figures in my life......& those who still are a quiet guiding light..... 

Lyrics:

சின்னஞ்சிறுகிளியே, கண்ணம்மா 
செல்வக் களஞ்சியமே! (சின்னஞ்சிறு)
என்னைக்  கலிதீர்த்தே உலகில் 
ஏற்றம் புரிய வந்தாய்! (சின்னஞ்சிறு) 

பிள்ளைக்கனியமுதே, -கண்ணம்மா!
பேசும் பொற்சித்திரமே! 
அள்ளியணைத்திடவே-என்முன்னே    
ஆடிவருந்  தேனே (சின்னஞ்சிறு)

ஓடி வருகையிலே- கண்ணம்மா!  
உள்ளம் குளிருதடீ; 
ஆடித்திரிதல்  கண்டால் உன்னைப்போய் 
ஆவி தவிழுதடி 

உச்சிதனை முகந்தால்  - கருவம் 
ஓங்கி வளருதடி 
மெச்சி யுனை யூரார்- புகழ்ந்தால் 
மேனி சிலிர்க்குதடீ.

கன்னத்தில் முத்தமிட்டால்-உள்ளந்தான் 

 கள்வெறி கொள்ளுதடீ 
உன்னை தழுவிடிலோ- கண்ணம்மா
 உன்மத்த மாகுதடீ. 

உன் கண்ணில் நீர்வழிந்தால்- என்நெஞ்சில் 
 உத்திரங்  கொட்டுதடி; 
என் கண்ணில்  பாவையன்றோ? கண்ணம்மா 
என்னுயிர்  நின்னதன்றோ! 
என் உயிர் நின்னதன்றோ! 
என் உயிர் நின்னதன்றோ!

Oops...Deep....